5 out of 5 People Recommend Choosing Happiness
Guest Post by AlienEating
Since I was young I’ve somehow always been super wise. Just a regular all-knowing being.
Maybe I was just born wise or maybe it’s Maybelline but I’ve always put an emphasis on wanting to “be happy” with my life. In school, teachers always make students do that “5-year plan” and mine was always “travel and be happy”. Which would generally always elicit some response along the lines of “Oh honey, that’s sweet but we need a real plan. What are you actually going to do?” *insert confused look from greasy haired, chubby middle school me*. Usually, I would just say “I want to be a supervisor” just to make them angry. Why was that not a real answer?
Since then, I’ve done what I do best. Drink wine. I mean prove people wrong. I realized doing exactly what I said back then wasn’t that hard. Creating your own happiness is there for anyone who reaches out and grabs it. My most recent endeavour has been moving to South Korea to travel while teaching English to some mega cute Korean kids. I’ve been so fortunate to be able to do what so many people only dream of doing but recently the fast-paced, face-saving culture here has really bogged me down. The constant shoving, stares, and being packed in a sardine can of a bus is a living nightmare for me.
So, I decided to use my time wisely and do something I’ve always wanted to try, started a blog! Of course, I roped my best friend into it too to help with all the computer things I couldn’t do.
I’ll spare the sappy details but it’s been the best thing for me. It’s been better than swaddling up on my bed-couch while eating an entire baguette. Not even baguette slices, just munchin’ on the loaf. This blog has been a godsend for me, especially in a culture that depends so much on propriety.
- looking “catwalk ready” at all times
- saving face (not expressing any emotion)
- lack of small talk/ casual conversations
- constant last minute changes
I’m an extremely blunt and open person and a place like this gets me down. I want someone to talk with me when I complain in public about how late the bus is! So on those days when Korea is just beating down on me with an elephant-sized hammer, I’m able to just sit down in a PC room, furrow my brows and click click my little heart out. I can channel my energy into something positive. Writing about all the hilarious experiences from getting surprise acupuncture to tricking students into thinking we know what we’re doing as ESL teachers.
Our new guest bloggers Prachi and Morgan!
Blogging became a safe-haven and really brought back my happiness that I came to Korea with. Both Prachi and I loved blogging so much we decided to take it seriously and turn it into a career plan. Working 9-5 teaching English and zipping over to the PC room until around 2 am. Double full-time jobs, baby! I wouldn’t have it any other way.
It’s the first thing I think about in the morning and the last thing I look at before going to bed. I can’t even go to the bathroom without pinning something, checking SEOs, or replying to comments. Which is absolutely mental but I’m in love with it. It’s something I’ve built and I take so much pride in it. It’s like I’ve customized a tiny online robot child and I have to feed him pins and Instagram follows.
Let me just say something though. Blogging is hard. Learning everything from the ground up is mind-numbingly exhausting. I’ve spent two hours adjusting headers to make sure it was centred. Then having to learn about SEO, different widgets and for heaven’s sake, there aren’t any plugins on wordpress.com. All of these tiny things matter because the blog is a reflection of us! If the blog is hot pink and zebra printed with content about medieval weaponry people are going to think of 2004 Ohio and 1702 England.
There’s nothing like feeling successful and proud of something you’ve created and being able to show it to the world. I finally feel like I’m working towards something again, I feel like I’m in control of my life and my happiness because I’m investing my time and energy into something I love doing.
Working for yourself is a completely different style than any average job. I work my own hours, I have no one telling me what to do or when to do it. It requires a great deal of self-discipline. I personally choose to take a break every 3 hours or so and watch a few throwback music videos, eat a cheese stick or 4 and whip around my ponytail.
Then back to work! If I sit on my bed-couch and eat dry tortillas while watching Say Yes To The Dress reruns for 6 hours then I’ll make $0. Can I blame my boss? The boss is my cozy cave of fleece and tasty maize dreams! Speaking of which, can we use tortillas as a world currency? No?
By all that I mean me, my own fault, mine. No one else’s. My success depends on how badly I want it, just like my happiness. If I’m not happy, it’s up to me to change that. No one is going to come and do it for me. You get what you put in.
I decided to take control of our own happiness by becoming my own boss and starting a blog.
That’s what makes me feel in control and happy.
Happiness is made not given. Peep a look at this nicely numbered summary:
- The hustle never stops, no matter what. Being happy requires hard work and taking charge of your own life. Never stop!
- Maintain a balance! Work hard, play hard, and sleep harder.
- The sky is the limit with self-employment and happiness. You get what you give – if you want to be a sunbeam, don’t just be one sunbeam. Be ten!
- Do what is necessary to get back on that grind.
- Feeling overwhelmed? Take a break!
- Relatives stay over too late the night before? Take a 6 hour nap!
- Overworked? Drink a martini and watch House Hunters: International! (not that I condone drinking on the job but if you’re the boss…)
If you’re not happy, make a change.
Don’t just talk about it.
I go to “work” every day because I want to, not because I’m reporting to anyone. Even my day job has improved because I know that once that’s finished, I can go work on my tiny online baby that’s going to lead me somewhere in the future.
There’s nothing more rewarding than being responsible for my own success. In the end, I’m not doing any of this to impress a manager or a future employer. I’m doing this because it makes me happy and makes me feel like I’m working towards success. Minus the days that I spend trying to work and just end up clawing my eyes out and drinking 13 $1 cups of coffee. Those days don’t yield success. But 1 step forward 2 steps back right?
What have you done that makes you really happy? Besides sitting in those same leggings for three consecutive days. Let us know in the comments or email us at firstname.lastname@example.org