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How to deal with overthinking in 5 easy steps

As I hovered over the publish button, my overthinking mind got into gear.  

“What would people think of me?”

“Who the hell am I to post something on YouTube?”

“What if my school friends see it and laugh at my expense?”

If only I’d have acted in courage immediately and hit submit straight off, my overthinking brain wouldn’t have been fed.

But that’s how I roll.  It only takes 5 seconds of hesitation and I start to doubt my initial enthusiasm and my overthinking mind goes into overdrive.  Hello self-sabotage.  

However, I did hit publish and the world didn’t stop turning. I didn’t hear any distant giggles of ridicule either.  Instead, I felt empowered. But I had wasted precious energy on overthinking the what if’s again. It’s not my best healthy habit.

And it’s not just for my online business, it’s life in general.  Have you ever overthought and overanalysed a simple text message?

The text after a first date.  Sent with love and then when an immediate reply doesn’t transpire, we analyse our “Hi”…should’ve put “Hey” He’s only put x1 kiss at the end of his text and last time it was x4.  This is the beginning of the end of our blossoming relationship. And on and on our minds’ go…

The amount of times my overthinking brain has conjured up the most intricate stories and STOP!

STOP overthinking and overanalysing.  It’s done, it’s dusted, move on.

How then can we deal with the overthinking habit?

 

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1. Chunk it down

Confucius says “The man who moves mountains begins with carrying small stones.”

So strive for regular baby steps as opposed to huge daily goals and you’ll find your overthinking muscle gets weaker.

2. Get cool with failing forward

Often we stop ourselves because of the risk of failure. Yet making mistakes are our greatest lessons, so if we prevent this experience we prolong our path to success.

3. Bust out overthinking

When you start to play out all the negative scenarios of what could happen, acknowledge this, be kind to yourself, pack away your crystal ball and switch your thoughts to action and just make it happen. 

4. Congratulate yourself for inspired action

Hi-5 yourself for actually DOING something. Making a decision. Moving yourself forward towards your goal.  As soon as you feel yourself going over and over your decision, switch off and look at the positive.

Now, without overthinking this, what is the one thing in your business that you want to achieve one year from now?  We’d love to hear your work goals! Let us know in the comments below or contact us here.  

And remember small steps towards your goal, quit overthinking, make a decision and just go for it! You’ve got this. 

Guest post was written by Dawn Barnes.

I’m getting my shine back after having children, helping other mothers on my way. I’m on a big mission to help and inspire ambitious women to feel fabulous again and get more out of their life.

Find me at dawn-barnes.com

 

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Productivity – Want extra hours in the day?! Discover how top Female Entrepreneurs do it!

Productivity – that endless quest to get more done!!

 

“You whaaaat?”

“I set my alarm 30 minutes earlier than the kids wake up.”

“Are you crazy? I mean… WHO really does that?”

“I do.”

I understand that a sleep-deprived, exhausted Mum loves her sleep. Who doesn’t? But I can hand on heart say when I rise before the house wakes up – my day just goes better.

And that 30 minutes of calm in the morning is like gold dust. My heaven time. My time. I love it.

I’m not saying it’s easy to get up before the house stirs but it 1 million per cent gets me and my day started in the right way. 

It’s my secret on how I get my stuff done and how I can remain sane for…well, at least the first hour of the day!

Whether it’s to tick off a couple of important daily tasks, reconnect with myself or simply enjoy a hot cuppa tea in peace, it’s absolutely worth getting up when the alarm goes. 

So, how can breaking the snooze habit of a lifetime really help you?

1. Wake up when YOU decide

Up until now, is it when the kids come bounding into your bedroom that breaks you from your deep sleep?  You get an arm in your face and the volume is turned to LOUD and before you know it, your groundhog day has started again.  

Imagine a time when you were the captain of your dream ship and you actually got up in your time, in your own way and you had time to breathe.

…and back in the room.

Set your alarm 30 minutes before they typically wake up. Don’t hit snooze.

 

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2. Get time to yourself

Any mother will vouch that a little time to herself is her sanctuary. Chance would be a fine thing!

Well, make that chance.  Get up earlier! You know what you can accomplish in 10 minutes without the little ones.  Imagine what you could achieve in half an hour ALL BY YOURSELF!

It might be some peaceful moments of calm and stillness that is most needed or focus time to really check-in on your business plan.  Whatever serves you best, getting this done and dusted first thing before the day runs away with you, is good planning in my book.

3. Get on top of the important things for increased productivity

Chances are if you’re running the house, running a business or running a full-on job, no doubt, your schedule will be packed and your priority list hefty.

Although we incessantly pray for more hours in the day, with all the will in the world that just ain’t gonna happen.  We need to carve out more time and it’s there if you truly look.  You may prefer to stay up late to get your shiz done but there’s something to be said about waking up when the day breaks and ticking off a few vitals before the chaos begins. 

4.  Gain back control for more productivity in your day

Arguably, how you wake up is as important as when you wake up.

By getting up earlier you are in control of how your day begins and as the late Louise Hay says:

“how you start your day, is how you live your day, and how you live your day is how you live your life.”

Although it may seem madness to deprive yourself of an extra 20 mins in bed once you get into the habit of getting up earlier your sleep cycle will thank you for it. You’ll find productivity just comes naturally when you do this!

 

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5. Reduce the Mum guilt

Do you promise that tomorrow you’ll give yourself more time to get ready, that you will be more productive?

Many a time, I’d underestimate how long it takes for me and the little ones to simply get out the door on time.  I swore someone robbed me of those last 10 minutes!  Stress levels rising, I’d end up screaming and shouting at the kids to hurry up!!! Seconds later, I’d feel the Mum guilt as I hadn’t wanted to lose my cool. Again. 

This wasn’t the best start to our day.  

If only I could get up earlier and prep the morning better, I could be one of those, you know, organised ON Time mothers.  I like that!

Do it. Set your alarm 30 minutes earlier and just GET UP!

6. Improve your wellbeing 

Whatever the studies show that morning people lead happier more productive lives, what I know for sure is, the days I get up earlier I feel happier, more positive and calmer.  

If your fitness excuses ramp up, use this early time to get your daily workout done and not only will you feel smug as you like but you’ll be well on your way to feeling better thanks to exercise-induced endorphins.

You may not always feel like jumping out of bed with a happy smile on your face at early o’clock but it’s absolutely worth a go to see how getting up earlier shakes up your day.

We’d love to hear what your morning routine looks like.  How do you try to keep up productivity? Drop a comment below or contact us here and let us know!

 

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Guest post was written by Dawn Barnes.

I’m getting my shine back after having children, helping other mothers on my way. I’m on a big mission to help and inspire ambitious women to feel fabulous again and get more out of their life.

Find me at dawn-barnes.com

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