In the past, I’ve posted snippets of my story and how I got to where I am now in business, but for the first time ever I thought I’d tell the story from the perspective of how you might be able to use my failures to help you on your journey.
The first thing I’d like to point out however is;
THEY’RE NOT FAILURES – THEY’RE LESSONS
It’s only a failure if you give up right!
So let’s go back to the start, well the uni days at least. I actually studied Forensics and Analytical Science at
I wasn’t very well for a while after and so I struggled to keep up with uni, with my bills and life in general. At the time I worked in marketing for a night club, this meant working the evening, and the noise and lights were too much with my head injury. I slipped into debt. By the time I could be around actual lights again, I owed so much money I needed to work full time and so I couldn’t manage my degree..
And that was that. Welcome to being an adult!! But so began my interest in marketing and sales!
What I love about marketing and sales is the psychology behind it. It’s not luck that you get a sale. It’s about understanding people’s behaviour and predicting it, and even shaping it. However, I didn’t know this at the start.
I loved working in marketing, I worked for a German engineering company, I worked for a entertainment business. I got to travel and studied and perfected my craft. Now you have to remember I did all this just as websites were really getting popular for businesses, Facebook was a mere twinkle in Zuckerberg’s eye at this point.
Then 11 years ago I had my first side hustle that was all mine. I started dog walking. The business had a small website but Facebook was the main place I got the business from. Boy was it easy to get business on Facebook back then!! I dog walked whilst on maternity. I put Kaitlyn in a carrier and earned extra money to make maternity leave a little more comfortable. When I went back to work, however it was hard to give time to the business, a 1 year old and my job, so the it was the business that gave way.
Over the years this happened a few times. I’d want extra cash, maybe for a holiday, maybe a new car. I’d start a business, earn what I needed then pass the business on to someone else and resume my neat employed life.
I sold jewellery, I trained for 2 years (alongside my fulltime job) to be a personal trainer, I made handmade children’s clothes (still do!), I blogged. I tried Avon, looked into Forever Living and more!
But over time I wanted more. I’d got the bug. Structuring my own time, no earnings bracket. The decisions being all mine. Not disagreeing with a boss but having to do their bidding anyway.
I didn’t know it at the time but I’d been learning all there was to know about marketing and sales, and I’d been practicing on what I call my “mini businesses”. And all this was there ready for what came next.
One of my best and worst qualities is that I give give give. This is usually to the detriment of myself. And then when you can no longer give I find people get really annoyed with me and treat me quite poorly. When you have some one that is fair and doesn’t take take take the relationship works well. I’m not sure what you think, but I find many people are happy to exploit your good nature.
In the last job I was in the boss went one step further. She didn’t just take advantage. She was an outright fruit loop! She took great delight in making me feel as degraded as possible. I felt sorry for her really. She was in her fifties, and it makes you wonder what happened to a person to make them so mentally cruel?
At this stage in my life, mid thirties, two children, bills to pay, responsibilities area driver, especially in the work you do. I felt I SHOULD have a 9-5, I SHOULD go out to a job. My status was measured on my job title. My happiness certainly was not.
And boy did I start to slip. I got really down. I would sit at my desk in floods of tears before my boss arrived at the office. I would have to ring my sister or my other half to get help in stopping the sheer unhappiness pouring out of my body. You know that crying where you can’t breathe and it’s overwhelming – yeah that.
It was like coffee didn’t have any
And one day I broke. Now don’t confuse matters. Was I
Sheer panic kicked in. What had I done? How would I pay the bills?
For one month I existed. That was all I could manage. I prayed for the anti-depressants to kick in so I could feel something again. I waited and waited. And after 3-4 weeks the clouds parted and I felt the warmth of the sun again.
So there I was, it was like I’d climbed out of the pit of depression and I was sat perilously on the edge. I could sink or I could try to get away. And I crawled away with every single fibre of me. I started writing for people. I made a decision that this was the time. This was the time for my own business I just felt it in my gut. It would take me away from the precipice, I just knew it. The business began “As Acorns Grow” – why was
I officially launched in May 2018 and I knew what I wanted from the business. I wanted to work from home. My home is my sanctuary. I was still having panic attacks from the episode in February and I just felt like when I was home I was safe and comforted.
I wanted to be able to choose my own hours as much as possible. I had learnt from all my service based businesses that in working for clients they dictate your hours, so ideally my business would be around a passive income model. And obviously, I knew that I wanted to share my passion for growing businesses. I wanted to share my 14 years of working in marketing and sales, and all the lessons from my side
Within 3 months the business was fulltime. A mixture of courses, products, paid blogging opportunities and clients was bringing in money, not just enough to pay the bills but to enjoy life again.
In October I was invited to speak at an event in London. That’s around 3 hours from me in the North of England. It took me about three weeks to say yes as my anxiety really kicked in. It was the thought of leaving the kids and my home – AKA the sanctuary. But something said to take the opportunity. And I did. My other half came with me for support and the last of my anxiety ebbed away.
I started the trip clinging to his arm. Trying to be brave. I ended it thinking I could take on the world!
Well, I’ve been a rock bottom. Crappy jobs, no money, the depths of depression. But that doesn’t define you. What defines you is how hard you climb. How hard are you willing to fight for your goal? What will you do for your dream?
Find your fight then make a plan. (I can help you with that bit! But the fight, that’s on you my lovely!)
I decided recently I wanted to give my fellow ladies a real boost in business. I know what it’s like trawling around Google looking for all the answers so I wanted to give you a head start and skip that part.
You can get my 6 best performing strategies here for your business
I hope it helps you to know that you’re not alone, that it can be done and that we don’t all have shiny perfect Insta lives! I’m always here if you ever need help!
I once received an email from a person I really respected saying how they rejected “hustle”. They went on to define “hustle” as a negative thing, saying it’s about working endlessly like a hamster on wheel, going round and round and round.
See I don’t see hustling like that at all. My aim, for example, is to hustle for just a few hours per day maximum and just 3-4 days a week…. but for a full time income!
That’s hustling smart, not hustling endlessly. The problem isn’t with hustling… it’s with how you hustle.
Let’s put it another way. You need to sweep up leaves from a path. Do you
(A) grab a decent outdoor broom and start swiftly brushing in one direction, with a bag or bin ready to collect the pile of leaves at the end
(B) walk to one end, pick up a leaf with your fingers, walk back to the other end and place it in the bin. Repeat for the next 5 hours until done.
The job gets done either way, but I think we’d all agree that B is a waste of your precious time.
My point is; DON’T REJECT HUSTLE – WORK SMARTER NOT HARDER
Here’s some ways I do this;
As a fairly organised person, I do love a good list. I am a huge advocate of Trello. I am bloody obsessed with it, to be honest! I like the fact I can access it via an app and on my desktop. However you chose to write your lists I recommend having a few lists;
This doesn’t mean getting up in the middle of the night to do emails, but rather creating a passive income. There’s nothing quite like the joy of waking up to notifications saying you’ve received money whilst you sleep! Think about what you do, even if it’s service based, you may be able to offer a guidebook, a course, a printable that you can sell to support your work.
Another way to help you achieve more and work less is by hiring a virtual assistant to do the work for you. As soon as income allows in the business hand out admin tasks so you can keep being creative in your business or have more time for yourself.
There are a ton of ways you can work more efficiently, and you can reduce the hours you work by growing a business and hiring a team. But to get to this stage you have to hustle hard. That doesn’t mean not taking care of yourself. It doesn’t mean working endless hours. It means prioritising, doing the tasks that make a difference and being consistent. It means planning.
So don’t reject hustle. Just hustle smarter.
What springs to mind when you think of meditation? Total serenity, peace of mind and clarity (sounds amazing!)? Hours sat cross-legged, ohm-ing and humming (not quite so amazing…)? It’s everywhere these days, and you’ve probably got your own ideas of it and the benefits it brings. But surely, there’s no way you could fit half an hour of mind-clearing meditation in when you’ve got 1,000 things on your to-do list, screaming babies/toddlers probably destroying some precious ornament or a dog/cat/budgie that needs feeding/walking/petting desperately?
Actually, as I discovered (thank goodness I did!), you can fit meditation into a very small time-frame. Say, 3 minutes. That doesn’t mean you lose out on the benefits though! I found meditating for 3 minutes left me feeling recharged, relaxed, and not thinking of the 1,000 things on my to-do list.
Keep reading for some more bite-sized info about what meditation is and why you really, REALLY need to try it out – go on, who doesn’t have 3 minutes?
At it’s most basic, it is a way to quieten the mind. It is still seen as a religious/spiritual thing, but it can just be used for simple relaxation.
There are so many myths around meditation and I believed so many of them myself, I’ll be honest! Here are a few of the bigger myths that I’ve noticed, and the truth behind them!
There are so many benefits to meditation, including some you probably already know about and others you probably didn’t. Here’s some more convincing, if you need it (3 minutes!):
Whether you’ve suddenly been taken over by an urge to meditate or you’ve done it before, here are some tips to help you:
Taking 3 minutes to yourself a day to meditate and re-centre can actually help you be more present in the rest of your life. Think about it this way – when you’re [insert activity here] with your kids/husband/laptop, are you really fully present? Or are you thinking about your massive to-do list? I know what I’m doing and I’d put money on the fact you’re exactly the same.
What have you got to lose? 3 minutes out in return for a half hour of present, ridiculously fun times with your kids or other half. Or even better focus on your work!
Here are the resources all neat and tidy for those who skimmed to the bottom (I know you’re there!). Take my word for it, it’s a worthwhile investment.
Headspace – they have some free guided meditations to get you started.
Road rage is, sadly, something experienced to one degree or another by all of us. Let’s be honest. How many times has a four-letter word popped out of your mouth after being cut off at an intersection? Granted, the “rage” in the phrase “road rage” may be a bit over-stated in most cases, but we’ve all been there to some degree.
I actually had to hit my brakes for an airplane the other day. Yes, you read that right – an airplane! I was heading down the highway and saw an airplane about a half a mile ahead take a dive that I was sure was going to result in an explosion. It was around a bend, and I honestly waited for the BOOM as I approached.
A few seconds later, I saw it climbing again and passing over the highway, only to repeat the pattern. I kept driving, hoping it was done with its little flight show, only to see it rapidly approaching me from the left… at about head level! I literally ducked and hit the brakes. Frankly, I was so stunned at that point that I was speechless, so no unfortunate potty-mouth words escaped.
Once it passed by, though, it was game on. I’m not sure this was technically “road rage” considering it was an airplane, but I was NOT a happy camper.
I found out later it was a crop duster. I’m told that a few years ago there was a crash and fatality of another crop duster in the same area. Well, considering the dives this one was taken, I’m not terribly surprised.
The town I commonly work in has a roundabout. It’s amazing how many people can’t navigate a simple roundabout…
I confess to struggling with these new versions found around the interstate, but I’m talking a simple yield and continue forward roundabout here.
When my youngest was about three or four, we were driving through this particular roundabout and I was nearly hit by an out-of-towner who evidently didn’t understand the concept of “yield.” Bad mommy moment here, as I slipped and called the driver a bad word. My son immediately asked me what a “shash-hole” was. I worked harder after that to bite my tongue.
Confession… I tend to cuss like a sailor at bad drivers. Just keepin’ it real here. That pattern is changing, though, as I’ve started to take a different approach to the driver who cuts me off or the one who hasn’t figured out that it’s the pedal on the right that makes the car go.
The next time you get aggravated with the “granny” driver, stop for a second and think. What if that person just found out that a loved one had passed away? What if their car isn’t operating right and they’re just trying to safely make their way home or to a mechanic? What if they just got their driver’s license and are just overly-cautious?
There are so many variables. It is highly unlikely, however, that they are driving slow just to tick you off. (Granted, this does happen… although more of an “if-you, then-I” sort of thing. For instance, if you want to ride right up on my bumper, I’m probably going to slow it WAY down until you back off!)
Take a moment and give them the benefit of the doubt and count your blessings. You’re safely traveling down the road in a vehicle that is operating well and there is no emergency in your life at that moment. Those are blessings to remember. Send happy thoughts to the person… just in case they are having some personal issue. Simply put, give them a break.
There are people out there that just should not be on the road. There are people out there who don’t care that you’re on the road. We have to share the road with them all, so why be miserable when you do it? Keep your eyes open, drive defensively, and try to keep the four-letter words to a minimum! It’s a process, but if you want to get from Point A to Point B without having a road rage meltdown, you need to learn to let it go.
Don’t forget to watch for rogue airplanes along the way.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
From columnist to blogger, Tina Bosse began writing in 2015. She blends the various bits of her life — professional, entrepreneurial, and personal — and shares her experiences with you. Tina’s Coffee Break became the means for her to express herself on seemingly random subjects, but subjects that are on her mind and in her heart at the moment — things we can all relate to many times. Simply put, Tina writes about life’s moments. Tina has managed her court reporting business for over 20 years. She owned her community newspaper for several years where she first discovered her love for writing through her weekly newspaper column, “Tina’s Coffee Break.” She’s been a member of her community’s town council for six years, the last three presiding over it as president. Drawing from all facets of her life experience, Tina now provides business strategy guidance to her essential oils team. A mother of two, wife for 32 years, and businesswoman of 25 years, a piece of Tina is in everything she writes.
Read more by this author at Tina’s Coffee Break.
How do you get customers or clients? Well, one way is showing that you know what you are doing, that you’ve studied, that they’re in capable hands with you, that you have proven experience and results, you have happy customers. Social proof. But for them to believe it you have to believe it. Mindset in business matters.
Let’s be clear, I’m not trained in anything to do with the brain. I definitely don’t have a qualification in human behaviour. Getting humans to engage with your business, however, I can do. Understanding the psychology of sales – well I have a diploma in that. I actually genuinely do have a diploma in that!
No matter what your business is you will be selling something, whether it’s services or products, you need people to part with their cold hard cash to keep you in business.
Now that makes it sound kinda gross!
Okay so let’s rephrase that. You have got a fab idea for a service or a product, something you have invested time, effort and a little bit of your soul into. Something that will add fun, happiness or value into a person’s life. Or something that will save them time or help them hit a goal. How valuable is that? Well to the person with a need, very!
So now that we’ve got around the fact that your product or service is worthy, you need to understand why people will buy it from you rather than the next person. Because you know what you are talking about.
You are an authority, a leader, you have experience, you have good results, others have used you or bought from you successfully with good results or a happy outcome. Whether you sell essential oils or life coaching, you need to exude confidence in what you are offering the world. Be confident that it will make a difference in some way in your customer’s life. That you have the answer to their problem.
Need an oil for migraines, you got that. Need coaching for imposter syndrome, you cover that. Need a bow that matches that cute dress your daughter has, you can colour match like a pro. Exude confidence! Confidence will lead to the right mindset in business.
This is a key principle for making a sale. You need to be seen as someone as who knows what they are talking about. A pro. An experienced seasoned pro. However, you can prove this (without being deceptive!) do it. Testimonials, reviews, certificates, likes, comments, statistics, you talking about your subject matter. Don’t presume people will just know you are an expert. They won’t. Tell them. Don’t be cocky or arrogant, but put it out there so they know.
You tell the world you’re an expert, but ultimately if you don’t believe in yourself as a businesswoman, you cannot expect anyone else to. And it’s, for this reason, a positive mindset in business matters. If will seep through in everything you do. You have to believe in yourself. And if you don’t right now, then my love you need to act until it’s real. I’m talking Oscar-worthy acting here. No one can know any different.
Before you know it, it will be real. Then you can all believe it.
You are good enough. What you are offering the world is good enough. You are trying to improve people’s lives in one way or another, even if you offer a product purely for fun. Fun is a ray of sunshine in your heart. Everyone needs sunshine.
Do you believe in yourself and your business? How do you stay strong? I’d love to hear how you feel this affects you in business? If you liked this post I would be over the moon (and much more confident in myself obvs!) if you shared it!! Or you can tell me more about your business here.
Hannah is the founder of She Hustles Inc. A marketing specialist who helps women to grow small businesses through meaningful marketing. Find out more and have a complimentary session to find out how to make your marketing work for you by clicking here.
Working from home makes a lot of sense, particularly if you’re setting up a business, as it saves a lot of money and time. In fact, even if you have a job, working from home is a much more efficient way to work, as you’re not having to waste time in traffic in rush hour or have the expense of peak travel.
That said, it’s not all sunshine and rainbows, there are downsides to working from home, such as the feeling of isolation and subsequent loneliness that can inevitably kick in if you are by yourself all day, in your home office.
Then, there’s the productivity cost. For some people, working from home makes them much more productive, as they don’t have the idle gossip by the water cooler, pointless meetings, and colleagues interrupting them whilst working on a critical assignment… yet, for most of us, productivity suffers due to various distractions and a lack of accountability.
In this article we’re going to look at the two most important aspects for staying productive when working from home:
It’s important to create a good working environment, one that has comfortable office furniture along with the peace and tranquillity required to concentrate. In an ideal world, your home office will be separate from your home – perhaps in a little annexe, or even the garden shed, as this way there’s a disconnection between “home life” and “work-life” which might sound silly, given it’s a few feet away, but the psychological difference is profound.
People that work from home tend to suffer more with procrastination and guilt; the procrastination comes from the number of distractions and lack of accountability – meaning, it’s much easier to just sit and watch Netflix at home than it is in the office, whereas the guilt comes from a feeling of pressure that we should always be working… unless there is a clear divide between working time and non-working time.
You obviously want a clutter-free environment that is light and airy. This way, you’ll feel much more focused and clear. That said, if you have a tendency to work late at night, you might want to invest in some mood lighting in order to not feel out of sync with the rest of your family… as there’s nothing worse than getting into bed, feeling wired, from work and the bright lights of your home office.
Routine is important to good mental health, and especially productivity, as long as your routine is helping rather than hindering your progress. For instance, you can have a routine of leaving things to the last minute and having to wake up at 6am to finish work that is due for a 9am meeting.
You want to make sure your routine supports you.
Furthermore, there’s something to be said with rituals such as getting dressed into work clothes, rather than lounging around in your dressing gown as this puts you into a more focused emotional state to work.
Then, it’s imperative you give yourself a lunch hour, and get out of the house – even if this is just for a few moments walking to the local shop. If you stay in the house all day, this will affect your mood and therefore productivity. It’s important to not isolate yourself away, in your home office, as this will lead to a feeling of loneliness.
I always wonder why so many of us are scared to live the life we are meant to live….
Well, I say I wonder… I feel I do know especially after I have studied Motivation and Mindset for these past few years and continue to do so. It’s hard to be our true selves sometimes especially when you have to be brave to do it…
Now I know not all of us are aware of our true calling or “Job”.
But when you have that light bulb moment I truly believe it’s your thoughts being aligned with the universe and you are being shown an opportunity. You could say aligned with your subconscious mind. Then the conscious mind takes over and decides to stop us in our tracks with negative or fearful thinking…
Now it’s tough to ignore and can be even tougher to sometimes listen and say “I hear you BUT I’ll find a way or I can handle this “
I have 5 simple steps you can take to help you be brave and find your way of fighting that negative talk and being the true you.
Let me start with one of my favourite inspirational quotes that I read often.
“You have to have confidence in your ability, and then be tough enough to follow through”.
This is a big one and something if you like it or not I think is so crucial to work on!
You need to believe you are the best and who you are and what you do is what others need.
Your belief system is what actually determines the outcome of your day!
We get what we focus on. If you are focussing on negativity and what is not coming then it will never come.
I am dyslexic and at 14 I had a reading age of 7. If you had told me then I would be writing a blog and you would be reading this or that it would be published I would never have believed you. This happened because years ago I decided to change my mindset and focus on what I really wanted.
Strong belief systems attract success!
This is important when you are setting your goals. You need to think about how you really feel about them. Do they put fire in your belly? Are you so excited about the end result you just can’t stop thinking about getting that end result?
If you are feeling any doubts or worries it is a case of simply asking yourself is this what you really want or is it just the butterflies of getting ready for the success coming your way.
I talk a lot about Vision and Clarity when I am working with my clients, but when you realise you have a passion for something you have to recognise it and never let go of it. You need to make sure you know how you can attract more of what you want and what you are passionate about. Focusing on more passion is never a bad thing.
Meditation the art of being in a room in absolute quiet, letting yourself be still and allowing your thoughts to come and go. Just let the ideas flow and listen to them I cannot tell you how important that is. It is something that will help you stay calm, and be aligned with your journey. Why not make it a regular part of your morning ritual and find some time before you look at your phone to check your emails, just take those ten minutes to be still and quiet.
Imagine that no matter what you do in life you would be guaranteed the success you are aiming for, and there was no threat of failure.
Visualise your life and aim for it.
If you truly believe in your own capabilities, in how you serve and generate results for your clients or customers I say….
“Don’t wait, don’t stop and go and show to the world how amazing you are!”
It’s time to be brave to say “NO ENOUGH this is my life and I want better, I know I can have better, I rock in what I do!”
Why would you think otherwise?
Be the woman you crave to be!
If you are struggling to find that woman, then be brave and shout from the top of your lungs and ask
“ help me find her”
There are plenty of us who will help and support you to find her!
Try these 5 steps!
What are you waiting for?
If you want more support you can find me here http://bit.ly/Step2gr8tness
Rebecca Cross – Business Success & Motivational Strategist
If you are an entrepreneur or want to get into business, then the likelihood is pretty high that you will have heard of the phrase ‘fake it until you make it.’ And when you think about it, it does seem a little dubious to fake some confidence to get where you want to be, or even a little delusional. But this is this the case? In fact, it has been backed by science that acting in a certain way can almost get you in a ‘rehearsal’ mode, starting a new way of thinking or doing things, and it can set off things for the future.
So if you want to be more of a success, then could ‘faking it’ be key? Here are some strategies that are all backed by science, as to why it could be a good thing for you, for your personal life, and your business life.
It has been found that if you want to lift your mood, you need to smile. It may be forcing yourself to do so in some instances, but it does things to your body to lift your mood and make you happier. When you have to multitask or face some specifically challenging task, then the task itself isn’t going to get any easier. But how you approach the task will decide how well things are done, and how you feel about it. Smile your way through it and it can be a much more pleasant experience.
There has been research at a North American University about how wearing certain clothing that is associated with positive qualities can help your performance in something. The study looked at a group of people that were given white lab coats. Some were told they were lab coats, and another group was told it was a painter’s smock. A control group wasn’t told anything. When asked to complete the tasks, the group with the ‘lab’ coats performed the best, as the clothing put them in the mood to be doing something scientific or focused. So dress for the job that you want, and the rest will follow.
You only get one chance to make a first impression. And in business, that can be the difference between a paycheck or not. So first impressions need to be good. As well as looking the part, your business also needs to be acting the part. Do you think it will be taken seriously if you have a Gmail email address and an ill-designed website? What about if your address on invoices is your not-very-professional-sounding home address? If you look into the benefits of a mail forwarding address, then like a domain name email address, you will see that it can be the difference between being taken seriously or not. There have been studies that have shown that the more professional something looks, the more it is trusted.
The main focus here is to act the part, and the rest will follow. Which is a great lesson to remember in business. Good luck!
Your business is the love of your life. You’ve invested more time into it than you thought physically possible. You can’t remember the last full day off when you didn’t sneak a look at your emails. What self-care? Self-care these days is writing a new blog post, but you don’t even care. You love it!
But wait. You remember those goals you set? Those ones you jotted down in that notebook? Those ones you’ve not looked at since. When did you go from a goal setter to just sort of drifting along just about keeping on top of your business?
If you don’t have goals, you don’t have structure. If you don’t structure your goals, you may as well not have any. It’s all well and good saying my goal is 5 new customers this month. But how are you planning on getting those? You need to set goals that are achievable, but also think down to the most little detail of how you are going to achieve them.
Or chances are you’re feeling the fear and not doing it. Many of us think no I can’t do it. You might not try to sell because you’re scared of the other person’s reaction. You might not approach them for that opportunity because you’re scared of hearing no. In business, you have to get past this. Feel the fear and do it anyway!
You may either not be sure of the next steps to take, or you’ve got so engrossed in all you have to do you’re missing the bigger picture. Either way, you need to take a step back and have a good understanding of the different strategies your business needs. For example turning followers into paying customers.
A Business Breakthough Session (a complimentary session) can help with understanding the strategies you need.
It’s a good idea to have a weekly set schedule of things you must do weekly in your business to sustain it. Then build on top of this with tasks from the strategies you have set to move your business forward. Set yourself a to-do list to keep on top of your business.
Trying to do too many things at once will mean you do ten things at 10%, do one thing at 100% then move onto the next task. A job done properly won’t need to be revisited.
As the saying goes there’s more than one way to skin a cat. Now I say that it’s not the nicest saying so we’ll move on from that analogy! My point is there’s more than one way to do the same task. Make your life easier and find the easier most efficient way to do it from the start.
If you’re offering a freebie set it up to automatically download, don’t send each one manually, for example.
I love all things strategy and helping small businesses move forward. To see them hit their goals quicker is just amazing! I’d love to give you clarity in business today! Try a Business Breakthrough Session (free 30 minute session!).
Being a mum and a step-mum brings with it its own challenges of not really putting yourself first, not understanding your worth and fighting for any bit of free time you can get. Do your evenings consist of feeding the kids (munching on their leftovers), bathing the kids (where a splash in the face feels like some sort of new, trendy spa treatment), putting them to bed (wrestling with some sort of ape- saves a trip to the gym) and then sitting down on your phone all evening for a bit of “me” time??
Yep! I remember those days… I used to watch all these spiritual, mindful, mums on Instagram and blogs and think to myself…
How the heck will I ever find time to meditate, journal and even think about manifesting my best future with…
1.5 kids, 1 business, 1 part-time job and 1 part-time degree…oh, and planning my wedding too!?
But, I found a way…
Well, it’s not much of a secret. I just get up half an hour before the kids do! So, my morning routine involves 10 minutes of meditation, 10 minutes of journaling and then 10 minutes visualising and manifesting my goals for the day. BUT the biggest thing I do? Put MYSELF first. Now by this, I don’t mean my kids starve or stay dirty, but what I am saying is, sometimes I put them to bed early with a film on so I can have time to do stuff for me!
Now, those 3 hours of “me” time I would get in the evening to sit on my phone? Well, I started reading, listening to podcasts, having my own baths and spending time with my other half sharing our dreams and plans for our family.
I started to read up about the law of attraction and all of the other laws of the universe and my whole perspective on life completely changed. I’ve always been a bit “woo-woo” anyway. Questioning the way of the world and wondering about all things bigger than me. There was just something about these laws that made sense. As I was reading them, it wasn’t like I was learning, it was more of an agreement and finally seeing on paper what I had known all along.
So, spirituality can start to make you feel more in touch with the world and yourself. But, as a mum, what made me finally decide to start putting myself first?
The realisation, that no one else will. Ever. I am the only person responsible for my happiness, my relaxation and my “me” time. AND, most of all…a happy, mindful mother and step-mother makes happy, mindful children. They have grown up to learn to put themselves first. Most importantly, that they are the only people responsible for their happiness and what an amazing adult that would be!
You are your child’s role model. Think about what adults you want them to grow up to be…and let that, if nothing else, be your reason for putting yourself first today!
Guest post was written by Victoria
I am a mind-set coach, specifically helping mums, step-mums and entrepreneurs to grow their self worth and learn to invest money and time in themselves.
Find me at Living Apperley Ever After
I had coffee with my long-time crime partner today, and we were talking about just random things happening in our lives, and my writing came up. She told me she thought I should get published. Hmmm, “Publish what?” I asked politely (because that’s how we chat with each other, is politely – ah-hem). I told her that I lack focus and just write about random life moments, perhaps sharing about a vulnerable moment or a fear I’m facing.
“So what’s the point?” I asked her, rather dramatically. To which she replied (politely, of course…), “Maybe you have something there.”
No, she was not being snarky, although she may, might-sorta-kinda, rival me on the snark-scale. She was sincerely saying to me that, simply put, people want to know they’re not alone in what they’re thinking and feeling. (Did I mention that she really does “get me”?) That has essentially been the theme of most of what I write. If I can drop a bit of laughter in someone’s lap by sharing a funny moment or give a bit of hope by exposing a vulnerability that maybe someone can relate to, then I’m all in.
So, we’re back to my original question – what’s the point? Well, I have come a long way, baby, in the way of diving in head first. As my ever-so-hilarious friend says, “Look at you, unpuckering and whatnot!”
I have experienced a tremendous amount of personal growth in the last year, and it’s because I’m exposing my vulnerability and learning to face my fears. One of my greatest fears is standing out in a crowd. I sure haven’t conquered it, but I’m no longer allowing it to hold me back. (Although, maybe I should reconsider that word, “tremendous.” I’m not certain my growth should really be described as tremendous, necessarily, but considering where I started, I’m feeling pretty good about where I am #inthismoment.)
One of the most common phrases I’ve heard while working on building a new business foundation is the much over-used “accidental” paycheck comment. Yeah, I’ve seen firsthand and experienced what they’re talking about. But what is NOT talked about, and really should be, is far more important – it’s the “accidental” personal growth. Looking back at what I’ve learned, if I could only keep one thing, it would be that oops-what-happened-here change I’ve undergone mentally and emotionally.
Most of what I write about now I would not have dreamed sharing a few years ago. As I’ve said before, I was about as private of a person you would ever find (about as far from “unpuckered” as a person could get…). I have actually learned to loosen up and be more open as a person because of the people I’ve met as I’ve begun to collaborate online. I have learned more about myself than I really cared to know some days because of this entire experience. I’ve learned that I am not the only one who fears exposing vulnerability.
A lot of my personal growth resulted from working with women who are not my usual “peeps.” I’m accustomed to being with a bit of a coarser, more blunt crowd, and due to the nature of my court reporting career, I’m also accustomed to the seedier side of life jading me just.a.tiny.bit. These ladies have opened my eyes to vegan and gluten-free diets, the dangers of coffee (horrifying, that, but I’m sure I’ll get past it!), cloth diapering, missionary work, and so much more. They are about as flip-side me as you can get, and they’re awesome, amazing hashtag-boss-people.
It’s unlikely that my lifestyle will ever meet up with theirs, although there are some parallels, obviously, but I have found comfort in my own skin just through my association with them. No, I’m not going vegan, although I did have one vegan meal with them (not awful), and I’m not on a gluten-free diet, although I know who to call if I find myself in the position where it becomes a necessity. No, I’ll never quit drinking coffee – duh. I haven’t gone off the deep end, yet. Despite our lifestyle differences, they have helped me find a peace I’ve never had before.
That brings me to back to my earlier conversation over coffee when I asked, “What’s the point?” Well, the point is, there is so much out there to experience, yet we allow ourselves to be held back out of fear. Fear of the unknown. Fear of what society will think. Fear of failure. Fear of exposing our vulnerability for the world to see. Had I allowed fear to hold me back that very first time I shared my new business with a friend, I would not have met any of the people that have since cascaded into my life.
That oops-what-happened-here change made me a better person. Do yourself a favour and punch fear in the face today. It doesn’t have to be your biggest fear – just pick something and own it … and #beaboss.
Guest post written by Tina Bosse
I’m a businesswoman always on the lookout for another challenge! I began writing a weekly column in the community newspaper I owned, and after selling the newspaper last year, I found I actually missed my little Coffee Break column. I started writing again recently as a hobby, and here we are!
I’ve managed my solo court reporting business for over 20 years, preside over our town council, write as a hobby, and educate people on essential oils usage and business building – all of which has put me on a path to find the ever-elusive work-life balance while also staying challenged.
As a mother of two, wife for 32 years, and businesswoman of 25 years, a piece of me is in everything I write.
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Find me online at TinaBosse.com
The millionaire mindset is a much-coveted phrase to describe the difference between how successful people think, use their time, and interact with the world.
There’s a huge difference between the way millionaires think compared to the majority of people that are on the financial treadmill of being employed in a conventional job. One of the key determinants is that of delayed gratification, as many entrepreneurs will invest their resources into long-term assets; meaning they are trading short-term gratification for long-term reward.
Today, we live in a society where most people want instant gratification. Indeed, many online stores are now having to offer same-day delivery, as people are becoming so impatient they want things right away, and this is the same with all aspects of life and business.
The millionaire mindset is one of careful calculation, for instance, they will invest a considerable amount of time and money in promoting their business through billboard signs (which you can read more about here), but would be reluctant to waste money on a fancy meal, if they are just starting out.
Here are three ways to think more like a millionaire:
Those with the millionaire mindset understand the importance of having big dreams, in life, as it’s just as possible to achieve a big dream as it is a small dream – it just tends to require a little more effort and action.
Many highly successful people talk about the importance of affirmations and having tools such as vision boards to keep them on track – and not just their conscious mind, but their subconscious too.
Vision boards help you connect with what you want, and the fact they are visual is very helpful as your subconscious mind tends to think in pictures rather than words – meaning the more images you show it of what you want, and the more you think about what you want, the more able your subconscious mind is to get to work at creating the results you want in life.
A common misconception among people that don’t have much money is that you need lots of money in order to invest, but this isn’t the case – investing is a practice, and most financially successful people put a percentage of their income into investing; for instance, many people will siphon of 10-20% of their salary to go into investments.
Therefore, if you are earning $100 a week, or $100,000, the principle remains the same – it’s just the amount that’s different. There’s an idea that if you aren’t able to save 10% of $100 then you won’t be able to save 10% of $100,000 either. The point is, that investing is a practice, a mindset, and a strategy of wealth generating. It’s a habit.
That’s the main difference between the “rich and poor” – people with less money have a tendency to spend money, almost instantly, in order to derive pleasure and/or gain comfort in the immediate term… whereas wealthy people tend to invest their money and develop long-term assets; thus trading short-term pleasure for long-term stability.
You may be wondering what the difference between a Business Strategist and a Business Coach is. They both should help with the direction of your business, they both should achieve progress, they are both services you should use if you are feeling overwhelmed, frustrated and lost in your business! Both services are specifically for people in business.
Using a business coach or a business strategist should save you money and time for your business. They will get you where you need to be in a much faster time. Before you know it, your business will be elevated to the next level, with your dream business in sight!
However, using the wrong one may still leave you feeling lost, so you may well be wondering what the difference is!
There will always be a degree of crossover between the roles. In fact, there are coaches who are actually strategists and vice versa, simply because they’ve labelled themselves as a Business Strategist when they’re actually a Business Coach.
Which is kinda scary as they should know exactly what they do right!!
The most simple way to look at it is as follows;
A Business Strategist will offer structure, guidance, strategies and tips for your BUSINESS.
A Business Coach will offer structure, guidance, strategies and tips for YOU!
Let’s look at this in more detail;
During a Business Strategy Consultation, your business will be analysed, and your specific problems addressed. You can examine marketing, sales, getting more customers and followers, product and service development, time management, staffing, legal issues and much more. After working with a Business Strategist you should feel like you have a plan of action for your business to hit your goals. You should feel educated to proceed forward with your business and take it to the next level.
A coach will assess you! They should bring out the best in you so that you may serve your business better. They will look at your motivations through to your passions and purposes, and translate this into your business and brand.
They may also look at issues like mindset, motivation, confidence, limitations… that kind of thing!
Maybe you need both a Business Strategist and a Business Coach! I can’t tell you that. If you only want to hire one, I’d say the best thing to think about is where the bulk of the problems lie. If you want your business to succeed, you want to put goals in place, you’re happy to work for new customers, consider a strategist who will help drive the business forward.
If you feel that you are holding your business back, as you are feeling unmotivated, or distracted then consider a coach.
If you would like to discuss any strategy needs for your business, why not have a chat with us! We are experts in helping small businesses get the results they want! Have a free 30 minutes business advice on us!
Do you have a dream of where you’d like your business to be in 1 year? 5 years? 10 years even? Do you know how you are going to get your business to that dream business? I mean do you have concrete plan to execute month by month? With realistic goals and targets? Do you know the help you can get? What services you could use? What free options are available? Who you could network with?
How you could make more money by doing less?
That’s where a business strategist can help. We look at where you are now, and where you want to be. Using my network and experience I help you set goals, explore new ideas, and maximise your business’s potential. Typically my services will see your customer list grow.
My business strategy consultation help you get your business from where you are now, to your dream business as quickly as possible.
Whilst I do hold a diploma in business, I have to say my knowledge comes from over ten years of running various businesses. I have managed all sorts of businesses from dog walking, through to personal training, through to freelance writing! I have served local customers in person, I have served people on the other side of the world online. I have worked with animals, children and adults! I had businesses before Instagram even existed!
And all of them were a success.
The only reason I don’t have those businesses now is because I created a better business. When I say better, I realised what I wanted in life. Where I wanted to direct myself, how I wanted to live. I stopped having work or businesses that dictated my life to me and reversed it. I now have a business that I love and fits my lifestyle and I want to share everything I learned with you!
Click here to book in and find out more!
I would like to share with you 5 tips I have picked up to get yourself into a millionaire mindset in order to move forward in your business and get what you deserve in life. We all want success right?
What do you want from life? What does your business actually offer people? Who is your dream client? These are all the things you need to be so crystal clear on. This way when you go to post or speak to your dream client you are able to word this in such a way so that the person feels like you are speaking directly to them. You will also be super clear on your vision and goals.
I have recently been doing this following a talk I heard by Mel Robbins and implementing the 5 Second Rule. Counting back from 5,4,3,2,1 and jumping out of bed. I have also started to do this before making decisions and before speaking when I am not in the best frame of mind or is something annoys me. It really works and sets you up for the day.
Pick 5 things you need to do in order to move your business forward at night ready for the morning. This gives you a clear intention so you don’t get stuck scrolling on Facebook when you have tasks to be getting on with. Plus it is only 5 things which isn’t overwhelming, but that is 5 things you get can get done with ease and then by the end of the week you have completed 35 tasks. Amazing!
I have changed what I listen to why I work. I know listen to motivational speeches or audio self-development books. This way I am learning why I work the way I do, and this is what anyone who is successful does. They feed their mind with success and inspiration constantly.
If it is I am a Diamond Leader, I am A New York Times best seller, I Earn £100,000 a year write it down every day as if it happens. This is the Law of Attraction, you are writing it, seeing it, and believing it. Our words become reality, our thoughts become reality over time it will become TRUE.
Why not start these tips this week and let us know if you start to see a change in yourself and your business?
Hello Mamas, how are ya? Are you running around, making sure the kiddos are sorted, the laundry is done, the dinner cooked? Oh, and don’t forget about sorting your partner’s lunch and dry cleaning, all while building your business and having life generally under control? Yikes, I am tired just writing that.
What about YOU? Have you asked yourself how YOU are doing lately? You are important. This is where self-care comes in. You know, making sure your glass is full. If you aren’t feeling like YOUR best self, how can you perform your best in your business?
You are not alone if you are scratching your head thinking, ‘What self-care? When am I supposed to fit THAT in?!’ Well, let me tell you how.
Sometimes self-care can get muddled up with long, lush baths, facials, massages, etc. Sometimes it can be a super sweaty session at the gym or a long run. That is SO not my definition of self-care, but it could be yours and that is the beauty of self-care.
Some people’s self-care is just having quiet time while their little ones are still asleep, reading or meditating. Or perhaps your self-care is sitting in a cafe with a good coffee or eating a good, nourishing meal. The point is, self-care is whatever gets YOU back in that alignment and fills your cup up.
So how do you figure out what the heck fills your cup up? Well, it is pretty simple-what lights you up? What makes you feel good, like really good? The best version of yourself? No rules, everything goes here. Some examples are:
Now, how the heck do I fit it in? If it works for you, invite a friend to do it with you. Perhaps you want to start a new morning routine and waking up early works-do that! Schedule it. As a Mumpreneur, we tend to be ALL about the schedule. So do that-schedule your self-care in. That gets it done, right? Finally, skip lunch. I know, I know, sounds counterproductive. However, if you work or freelance in an office, see if they offer fitness classes during your lunch break. You get up, you get to move. If they don’t or you don’t work in that environment, go for a walk. Getting out in nature can really help fill your cup up if that’s your bag.
The point of this article is that YOU matter. You can’t be your best self if you are tired, cranky, annoyed, anxious. You can’t be the best mumpreneur, mum, partner, friend if you are all of those things. How can you expect to grow your business in that situation?
Let me know how you have decided to take care of yourself with your self-care!
Guest post was written by Sarah
I am a Mama and a Mrs, a yogi and an essential oils junkie, as well as a Holistic Wellness Coach. I have been leading Mamas on their unique wellness journeys for the past 5 years, starting with yoga, moving on to essential oils, and now incorporating it all in Holistic Wellness Coaching. My motto is to have fun and to laugh our way through the education-if you aren’t having fun, then we aren’t doing it right!
Find me at Sarah Byrne Yoga
Being in business can be very hard, especially on days when you have a list of tasks you need to do but no motivation or willpower to do them. Unfortunately, it’s these tasks that will keep your business moving along the track to success. Today I’ll share my tips to get you completing those niggling tasks that you really don’t want to be doing!
If you really don’t want to do the task then take a look at what options are available. Outsourcing to a Virtual Assistant or freelancer is a great option. They can complete tasks you do not wish to do yourself or don’t have time for.
Virtual Assistants vary in price and quality so do some research first, you never know you could find a good one that will do more of the tasks you hate.
We all know that to do lists are really helpful, but they can also be a real pain and never get touched as other things pop up during the day. One thing a business mentor taught me was to make a list of 10 things you must complete by the end of the day (non-negotiable things).
If they do not get done that day, add them onto the list for tomorrow’s 10 things, but never carry them over onto a new week. This way each week you have covered the tasks you needed to do that week and you feel like you have accomplished something.
This is like a to-do list but in reverse. Once you complete a task write it down! This way it is making you feel more productive and you are able to feel proud at the end of the day even if it was just one thing it was one thing that you did.
If you are not in the right frame of mind you may struggle to get motivated. We all have that one thing that motivates us to be creative and get down to those tasks. Read a motivational book, listen to a Ted Talk, put on some tunes, get that energy high and you will find yourself in a better place ready to tackle that list.
There comes a time when there is something on your list that you really do not want to do, like making a phone call, doing a live training, doing a podcast, completing your tax return whatever it is you need to look at why you do not want to do it. Are you scared? worried? Find the reason and address it.
Once you have got over your fear you will feel so much better when you have achieved it.
If you find you’re trying to get tasks done, but not getting anywhere, then it could be time to remove distractions, switch the TV off, turn off the phone, step away from social media. These will just suck you in and stop you from getting anywhere. You know it’s true!
Being organised in the first place will set you up for success and help you achieve your goals. I sit and plan everything on a Sunday ready for when Monday comes around, I know what I need to achieve in the week and I make room in my plan for when something pops up unplanned so I don’t feel overwhelmed.
This helps my productivity no end.
If you get through your jobs then give yourself a little reward. Celebrate your success!! If you have a list of 20 things to do by 6pm and complete it on time, then reward yourself. Have a glass of wine, do a face mask, take a bath, order a takeaway, watch a movie! Whatever it is you enjoy make sure you do more if it to reward yourself!
I use to be someone who feared the to-do list, but once you implement a few simple strategies, you will find it more enjoyable and easier to get through.
Do you have any tips that have helped you? Drop them in the comments below or contact us!
As I hovered over the publish button, my overthinking mind got into gear.
“What would people think of me?”
“Who the hell am I to post something on YouTube?”
“What if my school friends see it and laugh at my expense?”
If only I’d have acted in courage immediately and hit submit straight off, my overthinking brain wouldn’t have been fed.
But that’s how I roll. It only takes 5 seconds of hesitation and I start to doubt my initial enthusiasm and my overthinking mind goes into overdrive. Hello self-sabotage.
However, I did hit publish and the world didn’t stop turning. I didn’t hear any distant giggles of ridicule either. Instead, I felt empowered. But I had wasted precious energy on overthinking the what if’s again. It’s not my best healthy habit.
And it’s not just for my online business, it’s life in general. Have you ever overthought and overanalysed a simple text message?
The text after a first date. Sent with love and then when an immediate reply doesn’t transpire, we analyse our “Hi”…should’ve put “Hey” He’s only put x1 kiss at the end of his text and last time it was x4. This is the beginning of the end of our blossoming relationship. And on and on our minds’ go…
The amount of times my overthinking brain has conjured up the most intricate stories and STOP!
STOP overthinking and overanalysing. It’s done, it’s dusted, move on.
How then can we deal with the overthinking habit?
Confucius says “The man who moves mountains begins with carrying small stones.”
So strive for regular baby steps as opposed to huge daily goals and you’ll find your overthinking muscle gets weaker.
Often we stop ourselves because of the risk of failure. Yet making mistakes are our greatest lessons, so if we prevent this experience we prolong our path to success.
When you start to play out all the negative scenarios of what could happen, acknowledge this, be kind to yourself, pack away your crystal ball and switch your thoughts to action and just make it happen.
Hi-5 yourself for actually DOING something. Making a decision. Moving yourself forward towards your goal. As soon as you feel yourself going over and over your decision, switch off and look at the positive.
Now, without overthinking this, what is the one thing in your business that you want to achieve one year from now? We’d love to hear your work goals! Let us know in the comments below or contact us here.
And remember small steps towards your goal, quit overthinking, make a decision and just go for it! You’ve got this.
Guest post was written by Dawn Barnes.
I’m getting my shine back after having children, helping other mothers on my way. I’m on a big mission to help and inspire ambitious women to feel fabulous again and get more out of their life.
Find me at dawn-barnes.com
Productivity – that endless quest to get more done!!
“I set my alarm 30 minutes earlier than the kids wake up.”
“Are you crazy? I mean… WHO really does that?”
I understand that a sleep-deprived, exhausted Mum loves her sleep. Who doesn’t? But I can hand on heart say when I rise before the house wakes up – my day just goes better.
And that 30 minutes of calm in the morning is like gold dust. My heaven time. My time. I love it.
I’m not saying it’s easy to get up before the house stirs but it 1 million per cent gets me and my day started in the right way.
It’s my secret on how I get my stuff done and how I can remain sane for…well, at least the first hour of the day!
Whether it’s to tick off a couple of important daily tasks, reconnect with myself or simply enjoy a hot cuppa tea in peace, it’s absolutely worth getting up when the alarm goes.
So, how can breaking the snooze habit of a lifetime really help you?
Up until now, is it when the kids come bounding into your bedroom that breaks you from your deep sleep? You get an arm in your face and the volume is turned to LOUD and before you know it, your groundhog day has started again.
Imagine a time when you were the captain of your dream ship and you actually got up in your time, in your own way and you had time to breathe.
…and back in the room.
Set your alarm 30 minutes before they typically wake up. Don’t hit snooze.
Any mother will vouch that a little time to herself is her sanctuary. Chance would be a fine thing!
Well, make that chance. Get up earlier! You know what you can accomplish in 10 minutes without the little ones. Imagine what you could achieve in half an hour ALL BY YOURSELF!
It might be some peaceful moments of calm and stillness that is most needed or focus time to really check-in on your business plan. Whatever serves you best, getting this done and dusted first thing before the day runs away with you, is good planning in my book.
Chances are if you’re running the house, running a business or running a full-on job, no doubt, your schedule will be packed and your priority list hefty.
Although we incessantly pray for more hours in the day, with all the will in the world that just ain’t gonna happen. We need to carve out more time and it’s there if you truly look. You may prefer to stay up late to get your shiz done but there’s something to be said about waking up when the day breaks and ticking off a few vitals before the chaos begins.
Arguably, how you wake up is as important as when you wake up.
By getting up earlier you are in control of how your day begins and as the late Louise Hay says:
“how you start your day, is how you live your day, and how you live your day is how you live your life.”
Although it may seem madness to deprive yourself of an extra 20 mins in bed once you get into the habit of getting up earlier your sleep cycle will thank you for it. You’ll find productivity just comes naturally when you do this!
Do you promise that tomorrow you’ll give yourself more time to get ready, that you will be more productive?
Many a time, I’d underestimate how long it takes for me and the little ones to simply get out the door on time. I swore someone robbed me of those last 10 minutes! Stress levels rising, I’d end up screaming and shouting at the kids to hurry up!!! Seconds later, I’d feel the Mum guilt as I hadn’t wanted to lose my cool. Again.
This wasn’t the best start to our day.
If only I could get up earlier and prep the morning better, I could be one of those, you know, organised ON Time mothers. I like that!
Do it. Set your alarm 30 minutes earlier and just GET UP!
Whatever the studies show that morning people lead happier more productive lives, what I know for sure is, the days I get up earlier I feel happier, more positive and calmer.
If your fitness excuses ramp up, use this early time to get your daily workout done and not only will you feel smug as you like but you’ll be well on your way to feeling better thanks to exercise-induced endorphins.
You may not always feel like jumping out of bed with a happy smile on your face at early o’clock but it’s absolutely worth a go to see how getting up earlier shakes up your day.
We’d love to hear what your morning routine looks like. How do you try to keep up productivity? Drop a comment below or contact us here and let us know!
Guest post was written by Dawn Barnes.
I’m getting my shine back after having children, helping other mothers on my way. I’m on a big mission to help and inspire ambitious women to feel fabulous again and get more out of their life.
Find me at dawn-barnes.com
On some days blogging is a dream filled with positivity.
Life is glorious – you win an award, get a house-sized million dollar check, a thousand retweets, a Nobel Peace Prize, and become World Dominator of Blog-nation.
On other days, the world comes crashing down. The house is on fire, the dogs are throwing up in the kitchen, the Internet isn’t working, Yoast is broken, and your entire blog closely resembles Gotham City. Except with no handsome husky-voiced Batman to save it. All that comes to mind is chucking the computer out the window and joining “The Quitters Family”.
No matter what, it seems impossible to stay positive and you’re on a full-speed, Nascar-level overworked blogger train non-stop to “I’m gonna delete my blog”-ville.
I’ve heard pretty bad things about that place so here are a few tips to get you off the Highway to Hell and back on the Stairway to Blogging Heaven.
Let’s be real. Sometimes, we all need a good ol’ cry-fest. There’s nothing like a cathartic session of crying à la red face and wheezing at the computer. So sit on your chair, bed, the roof, an elephant, the Kennedy Space Center, the moon – wherever your little heart desires and just cry. Go ahead and unzip those tear pockets and let it all out.
Trust me, it works.
My co-blogger and I work out of a PC room in Korea and we’ve bawled our eyes out with 30,000 boys around us playing PubG. I’m talking loud crying that leaves you gasping and wheezing so loud it wakes up the Sleeping Buddha. Tears that flood like Hurricane Katrina and short circuit the building with a horde of enraged teens after me.
I hate public crying as much as the next person and would rather face a locust plague and The Purge but bottling it up is much, much worse.
It sets you up for failure when everything from that point on is done with a negative mindset and a heart full of frustration and confusion.
Remember people, bottles are for juices and other beverages. Not tears.
If crying isn’t your cup of relaxing chamomile tea, do whatever it takes to get those emotions out.
Basically, it’s important to remember that as bloggers, we’re creatives. Positivity equals productivity and doing anything in a negative manner ends up with a catastrophe worse than a Level 9 earthquake.
Is it MailChimp? Google Analytics? Writer’s block? Your dog’s incessant barking? A zombie outbreak?
Dig deep down with a bulldozer to figure out what’s causing the frustration and anger and take a step back. That in itself will help stop that Burnt-out Blogging Rocket. If you focus ten hours on one tiny little “Vienna sausage sized” problem, it becomes difficult to look at the delicious “Costco-style Polish dog” big picture.
Identify the problem, address it, and come back later to solve it. Take a step back and reset the positivity switch. Do another less mind-numbing blogging task like catching up on emails or joining a Twitter hashtag thread. Anything to get you away from the gas can and back on the money-making train.
So many people think building an empire is this easy-breezy-Cover Girl journey. In reality, it’s time-consuming, exhausting, and most of us are working other jobs until the business turns into a money bagger. It isn’t a first-class Caribbean cruise with Michelin-star food and live Ed Sheeran every day. It’s more like building a raft with twigs and twine with a small branch for an oar for a trip from the Panama Canal to Greenland.
Remind yourself why you started the business. The independence, being the boss, or the control over every single aspect of it. Visualize your success and think it into existence. Whether it’s being in Forbes 30 under 30 or standing next to Marie Curie reincarnated. Casting out a line of positivity energy out will only reel it back in.
It doesn’t end well when you’re burnt out and left feeling like a wilted head of lettuce.
When I first started blogging a few months ago, the first thing I did every morning was:
Basically, have an all-nighter work session before even wiping out those eye-crusties.
Don’t do that. Don’t be that chump. All this does is leave you in a mood that rivals Regina George. Take at least half an hour in the morning as “me-time”. Drink some coffee, listen to music, pet some silky dogs, go for a run, or climb Mount Everest.
If you wake up in the morning to face a work avalanche, everything from then on will be done with a negative mindset and a heavy heart. Instead, start the day off right by taking time to yourself so that every challenge and setback can be faced with a positive attitude.
While having a hustle mindset is great, it’s equally as important to take some time to reflect on how far you’ve come, think about any tiny victories, and pat yourself on the back. Things as small as having one more view than last month to things as huge as landing a guest post on your favourite blogger’s site, She Hustles Inc of course. Go down the street to your local Sports Authority and buy the biggest, 7-tiered cheerleader trophy available, make them engrave a personalized message for you, place it in a glass box and put it on your mantle. Be proud of yourself!
Starting a business is a huge endeavour that most people wouldn’t even attempt. Have a drink, make yourself some fancy smoked salmon canapes, stare at your trophy’s and reflect. Get that positivity running back through your veins so you can get back to work stronger than ever.
Sometimes being positive is really hard and nothing works. The only thing that comes to mind is how starting this business is the worst decision since the Big Bang happened and the blog-universe was created. No matter how much you b**ch or cry or stare into the clouds or take some me time, everything leaves a sour taste.
At that point, take a step back from the giant red “delete” button and take a damn break. So many people think of taking a break as being synonymous with weakness. Blasphemy! Taking time to take care of yourself, your kids, your dogs or polishing your snow-globe collection is just as important as making those money moves. Refreshing the mind for new ideas, clear thoughts, and progress will get you farther and in the end, you’re only human. Not Moses parting the Red Sea.
80% of businesses and 99% of blogs fail within the first year for a lot of different reasons. People get bored, lose motivation, realize it’s more of an investment both financially and let’s be honest, emotionally. Negative thoughts begin to seep in and eventually take over so much that it seems you’ve actually grown horns and your drivers license says Lucifer McSatan age 1,007. Shut that entire scenario down real quick.
At the end of the day, remind yourself what you’ve built – whether it’s two months in or ten years in. Bring the positivity back and make the best business the world has ever seen. Besides Crocs. Crocs will always be number one.
What are you doing to build an empire? Have you found the perfect spot for a cry-fest yet? Leave a comment or email at firstname.lastname@example.org.