As I hovered over the publish button, my overthinking mind got into gear.
“What would people think of me?”
“Who the hell am I to post something on YouTube?”
“What if my school friends see it and laugh at my expense?”
If only I’d have acted in courage immediately and hit submit straight off, my overthinking brain wouldn’t have been fed.
But that’s how I roll. It only takes 5 seconds of hesitation and I start to doubt my initial enthusiasm and my overthinking mind goes into overdrive. Hello self-sabotage.
However, I did hit publish and the world didn’t stop turning. I didn’t hear any distant giggles of ridicule either. Instead, I felt empowered. But I had wasted precious energy on overthinking the what if’s again. It’s not my best healthy habit.
And it’s not just for my online business, it’s life in general. Have you ever overthought and overanalysed a simple text message?
The text after a first date. Sent with love and then when an immediate reply doesn’t transpire, we analyse our “Hi”…should’ve put “Hey” He’s only put x1 kiss at the end of his text and last time it was x4. This is the beginning of the end of our blossoming relationship. And on and on our minds’ go…
The amount of times my overthinking brain has conjured up the most intricate stories and STOP!
STOP overthinking and overanalysing. It’s done, it’s dusted, move on.
How then can we deal with the overthinking habit?
1. Chunk it down
Confucius says “The man who moves mountains begins with carrying small stones.”
So strive for regular baby steps as opposed to huge daily goals and you’ll find your overthinking muscle gets weaker.
2. Get cool with failing forward
Often we stop ourselves because of the risk of failure. Yet making mistakes are our greatest lessons, so if we prevent this experience we prolong our path to success.
3. Bust out overthinking
When you start to play out all the negative scenarios of what could happen, acknowledge this, be kind to yourself, pack away your crystal ball and switch your thoughts to action and just make it happen.
4. Congratulate yourself for inspired action
Hi-5 yourself for actually DOING something. Making a decision. Moving yourself forward towards your goal. As soon as you feel yourself going over and over your decision, switch off and look at the positive.
Now, without overthinking this, what is the one thing in your business that you want to achieve one year from now? We’d love to hear your work goals! Let us know in the comments below or contact us here.
And remember small steps towards your goal, quit overthinking, make a decision and just go for it! You’ve got this.
Guest post was written by Dawn Barnes.
I’m getting my shine back after having children, helping other mothers on my way. I’m on a big mission to help and inspire ambitious women to feel fabulous again and get more out of their life.
Find me at dawn-barnes.com